So it is about what you believe to be the reality..got it.thanx u so cool
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| Written by i j |
| Thursday, 17 June 2010 14:58 |
Some time ago I started to think on writing an article about “great human questions about gothic culture”, but that title is quite long, so I decided to write only about the great question, that periodically gets to my email or the comments on this (or the Spanish version of this) Web site.
What I have to do for being Goth?
Let’s start saying that the question has very little sense, for not saying none at all, and in some way it creates some “disturb” on me. But being the balanced person that I think I am, and trying to help everybody the best that I can I’m going to try to give an answer, not to that question, but to the confusion that in my opinion the people who asked that have.
Disclaimer: this post it’s full of philosophical content, read at your own risk, but I think it’s needed for understanding the Goth movement.
For heaven’s sake, this life is not about being “nothing” in particular, it’s not about people labeling you in the way you want to be labeled.
In first place, I can’t understand the people need of being considered in one way or another, what’s the point? I mean, in this life each of us is how he is and it doesn’t matter if when people see you they label you as being in a group named “A” or “B”, each of us is how he is and we only have to report to our own conscience of ourselves.
“Live your life so you don’t mind about people saying what you do with your life”
And I want to add.
“Live your life so you don’t mind about people saying what you do with your life, even if everything being said is false”
More philosophy: that last it’s a little bit harder but 100% possible, for doing it you have to consider that our own perception of the reality it’s biased, it doesn’t matter the efforts you make for seeing the “reality”. That’s why you have to assume that everything that you see, sense, know and believe might be wrong.
That’s how I see my existence, and sincerely want someone to explain me where is the need of being labeled as gothic, heavy, rocker or preppy… is that going to change what I’m really are? Will my life change in any way if suddenly everybody changed his mind about me? Don’t think so.
In that way if someone knocks my door and tell me “you aren’t gothic, you are… X” I won’t discuss him, I’m not? Ok, great, thanks for informing me, Is there any problem on that? There will be other people that will say that I am, that’s great too.
But I also think that if we wanted to label everybody in the world we would need a different label for each of us, I haven’t seen yet any 2 people that are exactly the same, even being genetically identical I wouldn’t be able to use a single label for them, if that want enough, there aren’t enough words in the world for labeling one of us, because each of us is unique with an infinite amount of characteristics… that keep changing over time.
Having said that and bridging the gap that I don’t trust in labels so the question is a non-sense for me, ill try to answer the initial question “What I have to do for being Goth?”.
Nothing
With that I don’t mean that everybody is Goth, I want to say that there isn’t anything that you can do for being, it’s not about having an attitude or behavior, it’s not of having certain belongings, it’s not about of having certain way of life.
It’s of having certain mentality and certain way of seeing the reality that will lead you in a natural way without anyone having to tell you anything to have certain way of life, an attitude and in last instance certain set of belongings.
How we see the reality change with time (but never from today to tomorrow) so “maybe” in the future just as things evolves someone will have the adequate mentality, maybe not, or maybe some Goth in the future change his mind and no longer is, that doesn’t mean “better” or “worst” just means different.
Unluckily (or luckily) I don’t know of anyone that has consciously changed his mind about how he sees the world, you can read and get informed and understand other people point of view (even if you don’t share them) and that helps, but there is nothing that you can do for doing the change of mind.
After all that writing I’m going to write the most “hurting” question that no one ever wrote in my Web site, it’s somewhere in the Spanish version of this site (www.kulturagotika.com) because, as I always say, I’m not going to censor anyone as long as they write politely and is Goth themed (nothing against non-Goth themes, it’s just for keeping everything in this site Goth related).
A free translation of the question would be something like:
“What I have to buy for being Goth?”
And sincerely it hurts, just for reading it you feel that your eyes start to bleed.
Definitively nothing: there isn’t any social club that could sell you some kind of “gothic license”, there isn’t any mobile phone that you could buy and that gifts you with a gothic title, there is no university degree for being Goth and no one is going to reward you with some car stickers that read “gothic inside” for joining the club.
I understand that this society has sold the idea that everything can be bought and money is law and therefore that question could make sense for anyone, but no, there are things that can’t be bought.
Conclusion: be yourself and it doesn’t matter “who” or “what” you are.
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